I recently read something that hit me deeply. Be careful what you hear and believe from other people, because those same people could be the very problem. It resonated with me so much because I have lived this more times than I care to count. At the end of the day, hurt people hurt good people.
I am too graceful of a person to feel the need to correct rumors or fight narratives that others have created about me. Everyone has their own perspective of a situation, and that’s fine. But here’s what people need to understand about me. It doesn’t matter how long we’ve known each other. We could have history going all the way back to 2010. None of that matters once I see who you really are.
The moment I recognize that you are a troublemaker, that you create drama, stir up confusion, or thrive off of chaos, we are done. No longer associated. No longer friends. No longer family. That may sound harsh to some people, but it is a non-negotiable for my life.
I have built everything I have, my business, my home, my peace, by cutting losses and walking away from people who choose drama over growth. That is simply not how I operate. I am drawn to people who are calm, positive, forward-moving, and accountable. People who can own their mistakes without pointing fingers or playing victim.
Let’s be honest, we create a lot of the problems that show up in our own lives. One of my biggest lessons has been learning to trust my gut the first time. I have a habit of giving people enough rope, watching them hang themselves, and then somehow being expected to save them. And I won’t. What tends to happen next is that they flip the script, suddenly I’m the villain in a story I never wrote.
The way you treat people when they have been good to you is not a reflection on that person. It is a reflection of your own character. People love to say they are good people, good person, all of those things, but character shows up in the details. If you are the type of person who owes someone money, pay them the money. If you said something wrong, if you were disrespectful, own it with a real apology, not an excuse. If your actions have affected someone’s business or their life, own that. Be accountable for it. Because at the end of the day, that is the root cause when people try to hurt the good ones who have been there for them. It’s really something deeper that needs to be looked at.
No. I simply allowed you to show me who you were. You made your choices. That’s on you, not me.
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